In planning a wedding, what order do you choose your details? Obviously, the bling comes first, but then what?
Do you start with the dress? But what if you don't have a church wedding, what if you want to do an outdoor wedding? Then you probably shouldn't have a 20-foot train, unless you hire some train-carriers. I haven't seen an ad for those on The Knot.
Now the colors. Is there a grace period to using color someone else used recently? Is there a grace period to use aqua?
Do you choose your attendants first, then pick a color that looks good on them? Or at least doesn't make them appear pastier than normal?
Do you pick unattractive friends as your attendants, so you look even better? (Not that I have ugly friends.)
Do you pick the food based on your tastes, or what you think 250 people would like? What if someone doesn't like chicken? Or green beans? Do you leave them take out menus on the buffet?
Music? What should be the first dance? Obviously this wouldn't be the time to play Let's Get It On, right? How about Prince? Rump Shaker?
How much of a free bar do you give the alcoholics friends and family? Do you provide the bartender pictures of those who potentially may drink themselves into dancing to Rump Shaker?
How do you pick the cake flavors? What if someone has a nut allergy? Gluten allergies? Lactose intolerant? Just plain picky?
Speaking of allergies, how about flowers? Do you match your bouquet to the bridesmaids, just make it 6 times bigger, so as to remove ANY doubt as to who is in charge?
I guess what I'm saying is yes, we have a little over a year but sweet cracker sandwich there are a lot of details to decide, and they're all intertwined. You can't wait until three months before to find a place to hold your reception, or book your church. There are invitations to mail, menus to choose, flowers to order, dresses to diet into, the list goes on.
I'm just very glad I have five bottles of wine in my kitchen. Now my only decision is Pinot Grigio or Riesling.
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Kim: I'm sorry I'm such a bad blogger friend but I have just now found a spare second to hop on over to your blog and then I find out you are engaged?! How awesome! I'm so happy for you! I also do want to hear every single detail of your wedding plans! I love planning wedding stuff and hearing about it! I was a good old bridezilla too and drove everyone nuts! ha.ha. Also, love the pics from your trip to Antigua. Yeah, maybe not such a good idea to say you got your engagement ring while in a foreign country. oops. ha.ha. We had a decent sized church wedding and I planned till I thought I'd go insane. If I had it to do over again, I'd go to the beach with just Matthew and a few family members and go barefoot in the sand! Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my blog. Hopefully, I'll have up some good Bahamas and Miami pics for you too see soon.
So, my personal opinion is to get your guest list nailed down. Then take your budget. You may need to revise the guest list based on the budget. Find a venue that accommodates both and fill in the details from there. You don't want to end up with a venue whose decor clashes horribly with your color scheme!
I ditto the budget comment, my dear. If you turn into the OTHERS I am annoyed with $$-wise, I may have to shoot you!!! :)
As for your attendants - we'll survive - pick what YOU like.
WARNING: Unsolicited advice!
I asked my girls to pick colors and dresses they liked. I also had indecisive girls so my sister picked the dress and colors. I made sure the girls tried them on and liked the colors. If they didn't like it, they had a chance to voice their opinions.
I also let them choose the flowers for their bouquets. I asked each one what their favorite flowers were and worked with the florist to make sure the bouquets worked with my budget and their likes.
I really tried to let my attendants decide for themselves what they had to wear and pay for. I knew it wasn't my money I was dealing with so I tried to accomodate them.
I second the budget comment. You won't be able to please everyone, especially if you're facing a guest list of 250. Do what works for you and Sugar. Everyone else will be happy to just be there.
Good luck!
PS I had a wedding "football" too. My sister made it up for me and it was perfect.
Ditto the budget comment. But keep in mind too that it's YOUR day, so you get to pamper yourself a little bit. Don't go so overboard trying to accommodate everyone else's needs/wants that you get a cobbled together wedding that isn't anything to your tastes. It's about the celebration of your relationship with Craig, not about who is going to throw a fit that they wanted pork instead of beef and chicken.
Definitely the Pinot Grigio!
Merlot is my personal favorite. Which ever one you want to choose, your the bride :) I'll just help you drink it.
Love ya
James proposed on March 22. On June 21, we were married on a beach on Kauai.
I highly recommend this method. All your money will be spent on a fantastic Hawaiian getaway for three (you HAVE to take Maddy) as opposed to a giant party for your family and friends.
However, as a former bridesmaid, one of the coolest things the bride did for us was pick the color and let us choose whatever dress we wanted. It worked out perfectly as bridesmaids are like snowflakes: no two are built the same. We each found a dress that flattered our body.
You can't wait till 3 months before...
LOL I said yes in mid September and we were married, in a church, with a dress, a historical reception hall, a dj,a cake and one of the best parties I have ever seen with 75 of our nearest and dearest on Nov. 30, 2003. How about 2 months? :P
I think a lot of the problem with Bridezillas is the fact that everything must just so and too much time is spent in the planning. The longer you take the larger things can get.
I have so many tips and tricks...I am willing to supply as time goes on. LOL
By the way, Hi! I am a lurker over at your parachuting site. Congrats on the proposal!
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